Contents

Preface    Keeping Kids out of the Middle of What?
Introduction    What This Book Is and What This Book Is Not
Chapter 1    What Is a Co-Parent?
Chapter 2    Not All Co-Parents Are Created Equal
Chapter 3    What If You’re a Single Parent?
Chapter 4    Row, Row, Row Your Boat
Chapter 5    The Five Essentials of Parenting and Co-Parenting
Chapter 6    The Child’s Experience of Adult Conflict
Chapter 7    A Quick Word About Promises
Chapter 8    The Myth of the Nuclear Family

Chapter 9    Scripting the Change
Chapter 10    How to Answer the Kids’ Concerns: The Power of “We”
Chapter 11    Creating a Child-Centered Parenting Plan: Whose Time Is It Anyway?
Chapter 12    The Anatomy of a Parenting Plan
Chapter 13    Keeping in Touch
Chapter 14    How Children React
Chapter 15    What’s an Overwhelmed Co-Parent Supposed to Do?
Chapter 16    When Children Resist or Refuse Transition
Chapter 17    Sibling Conflict and Parallel Process
Chapter 18    Introducing New Partners and Co-Parents
Chapter 19    A Dictionary of Dilemmas
Chapter 20    Resources
Index
About the Author

"I would highly recommend this book to couples in conflict, couples undergoing a separation or divorce (there’s great information on how to communicate during both of these situations) and especially, blended families struggling with parenting issues." 12.11.2008 Jennifer Newcombe Marine http://www.noonesthebitch.com/ co-author, "No One's The Bitch"

"Another way to gain insight [about co-parenting] is to read helpful books
written by professionals in the field of child psychology. 
A new one that seems to be resonating across the country
and has been buzzing on the internet is
'Keeping Kids out of the Middle,'
written by Benjamin Garber, Ph.D ...

... one of the main tenets of the book is to always be mindful
that kids get caught in the middle of something over which they have no control. 
They are sometimes used as spies and/or messengers
– a position no child should have to be in.
The author suggests practicing what he calls
'child-centered parenting,'
which focuses on skills that will help your kids to not only cope with your divorce,
but also to keep them emotionally and psychologically healthy
throughout their lives"

"I do recommend this book to anyone who is conflicted in a marriage, going through separation or starting the divorce process. Even if you are happily married, I do think there are a lot of things in the book that you can use. " Single Mom Finding Herself  11.18.2008